Tag Archive | Beauty

Self Love will bring out your true beauty!

As Marianne Williamson wrote so beautifully in her book, A Return to Love:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous. Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

The Standard for Beauty is All Wrong!!

Everyone has heard the saying ” Beauty is only skin deep”, but what does that mean? beauty is only skin deep means just that…there is only one criteria for judging beauty and that is a physical criteria since ‘beauty’ is a physical characteristic.  Does it mean that below the skin there is no beauty?  Or does it mean physical beauty is just an external attribute. Beneath the skin we are all the same and yet all different.

What if it wasn’t the skin, which means the face and body, that we were responding to when we sought out beauty, but the energy field of the person.  Everything in the universe is energy. Objects are made up of microscopic particles vibrating at such a fast rate that they appear solid. Our limited sense of sight doesn’t let us see the movement, or vibration, of the particles. Every object has a natural healthy vibratory rate referred to as “resonance”.  The vibrations translate into color.

The aura is the electromagnetic field that surrounds the human body (Human Energy Field-HEF) and every organism and object in the Universe. The Human Energy Field  is a complex combination of overlapping energy patterns which define the unique spiritual, mental, emotional and physical makeup of an individual.  A person’s Human Energy Field (HEF) is that part of the Universal Energy Field.

The Human Energy Field as a collection of electro – magnetic energies of varying densities that are emitted from the physical body of a living person. These particles of energy are suspended around the healthy human body in an oval shaped field. This “auric egg” emits out from the body approximately 2-3 feet (1 metre on average) on all sides. It extends above the head and below the feet into the ground.  We respond to each other’s energy field whether  we realize it or not.

It might help to think of a magnet, which has an energy field around it that allows nearby objects containing iron to be pulled towards it. You can feel the power of this energy field when you try to pull apart two magnets that are stuck together (attracted). You can also feel the repelling action as a magnet pushes away the same end (pole) of another magnet.

The human aura is sometimes called the body’s magnetic force field  because it has similar attracting and repelling properties, although these are much more complex and varied than the simple ‘north’ and ‘south’ poles of a magnet.  Did you know that what you are thinking and feeling right now is being transmitted to other people – friends and strangers – through your aura? All the stuff that’s going on inside you is having an impact on your external world, including individuals, groups, and the environment is either attracting or repelling people around you.

The aura is seen to be composed of all the colors of the spectrum. Combinations differ with individuals and are constantly shifting in the case of all of us. The colors are representative of mental and emotional states.  Whether we can see the aura or not we are responding to it. 

So what if we thought of all people as a color spectrum of the rainbow.

There would be green spectrum people, yellow spectrum people, blue spectrum people and so on, and for each color a different magnetic pull.  Some people might prefer blue spectrum people and some people might prefer red spectrum people and it is not about judgment but preference.  The preference could change based on how someone was feeling. 

There is a book called  Aura Colors by Paula Oslie, which talks about the different aura colors and what they reveal about a person that I found very interesting.  According to Ms. Oslie:

Most people have many different bands of color in their auras. The outer bands in your aura change all the time – depending on what is happening in your life at that time. The one or two colors in your aura that are closest to your body, however, are your life colors. These colors typically do not change. The life colors reveal information about your personality, theme and purpose you have chosen for this lifetime, what kind of life partner is best suited for you, what kinds of careers will be most fulfilling, your strengths and weaknesses concerning money, health, family, and much more.

So, in reality, when someone is responding to us they are responding to a blending of things that may include what someone looks like but is probably more about our energy fields and our aura.

I prefer to look at people as a mix of the colors of the rainbow, rather than fat, thing, tall, short, old, young and black and white. How about you?

Re-Wilding our Imaginations Will Enhance Our Beauty!

“What if the way out can be much sexier than buying things or changing legislation? What if it is more fun, and more colorful? What if the way out has to do with “re-wilding” our imaginations, undomesticating our lives, and reclaiming not only our rights but also our health?”  Malia Burkhart

When I read Malia’s blog post about the 99 or One and the occupy movement it struck a chord with me.  I especially like the concept of re-wilding our imaginations, undomesticating our lives and reclaiming our rights and our health. First of all I like the made up words because they go against domestication and move toward reclaiming our wildness.   This reminds me of the Wild Woman movement started by  Clarissa Pinkola Estes and her book “Women who Run With Wolves” in the early 1990’s and how that stirred me at the time.  I was even part of a Wild Women artist group and we did a lot of wild and crazy things together.

This quote from the book brings up wonderful images of what that might begin to look like:

“Within in every woman there is a wild and natural creature, a powerful force, filled with good instincts, passionate creativity, and ageless knowing.  Her name is Wild Woman, but she is an endangered species.  Though the gifts of the wildish nature come to us at birth, society’s attempt to “civilize” us into rigid roles has plundered the treasure, and muffled the deep, life-giving messages of our own souls.  Without Wild Women, we become over-domesticated, fearful, uncreative and trapped.

“To adjoin the instinctual nature does not mean to come undone, change everything from left to right, from black to white, to move the east to west, to act crazy or out of control. It does not mean to lose one’s primary socializations, or to become less human. It means quite the opposite. The wild nature has a vast integrity to it”

“La Loba (Wolf Woman), the old one, the One Who Knows, is within us. She thrives in the deepest soul-psyche of women, the ancient and vital Wild Woman. She describes her home as that place in time where the spirit of women and the spirit of wolf meet the place where her mind and her instincts mingle, where a woman’s deep life funds her mundane life. It is the point where the I and the Thou kiss, the place where women run with the wolves”

I believe the same is true for men.  We have been domesticate yet that doesn’t mean that domestication has to be our primary mode of operation.   Domestication has little to do with our authentic wild self and a lot to do with conformity and fitting in.  It has little to do with what our heart and soul desires and more about being enslaved.

“Nature and human beings are not separate. You can be sure that when the land and creatures are wounded by humans, that those humans are copying their own psychic wounds into the earth and animals as well; what is wounded and without thought, wounds others…”

~From essay “Massacre of the Dreamers, in “Untie The Strong Woman book” by Clarissa Pinkola Estes.

In one of my favorite children’s books, Maurice Sendak  tells the story of Max, who one evening plays around his home making “mischief” in a wolf costume.  As punishment, his mother sends him to bed without supper. That is how we were all domesticated, we were punished for doing things that didn’t fit the status quo.  In his room, a mysterious, wild forest and sea grows out of his imagination, and Max sails to the land of the Wild Things. The Wild Things are fearsome-looking monsters, but Max proves to be the fiercest,conquering them by “staring into all their yellow eyes without blinking once”, and he is made “the king of all wild things”, dancing with the monsters in a “wild rumpus”.

Social programming has left us over-domesticated, fearful, uncreative and trapped.   We have projected our own wounds on how we treat nature and the earth.  I think that is what we are witnessing right now, right along side of a movement around the world of people banding together to break free of it.  Estes Pinkola and Sendak were planting seeds toward this movement and now those seeds are blossoming.  I think we have reached momentum and that is what we are watching now in the freedom movements across the globe.  People are so tired of feeling fearful, uncreative and trapped that they are willing to give their lives to change things.

This piggy-backs so well on my current writing about embracing our authentic selves and the beauty of “weirdness”.  We have been away from our wildish nature too long as slaves to domestication and social programming. Our wild nature is a great part of our beauty. Without it we are not authentic and we are hiding parts of ourselves.  It is exciting to watch people waking up and begin to explore the wild and natural creature that they are.

This is not an easy process because it means questioning all the things we were taught as children.  It means letting go of judgment, self censorship and comparing. It means moving toward acceptance of self and others, of saying what is on our minds and not worrying about what others think and not comparing ourselves to each other in order to fit in and feel accepted because that is where the creative juice and genius is.  That is the edge of the norm and the beginning of new territory.  That is where the gate to the playground is.  From that place we can burst forth a new world and our life, our health and our soul depends on it.  If we lived from that place there would be no need for Occupy Movements.

Doesn’t that sound more colorful and sexy than what we have been doing for way too long?  I think it would be beautiful to see everyone unleash their wild nature and be themselves!

Let’s all get WILD in the good sense!  What do you think?

Here is my favorite photo of myself hanging out with wild things…

Expanding the idea of Beauty

  We are like the swan floating on the pond of beauty remembering ourselves in the reflection of the world around us.

There is beauty in the sunset, a rainbow, a kitten’s eyes, a dark storm cloud and even in the swirling rainbow colors in the landscape of the compost pile.  It is all beauty, for it has the potential to touch the soul and open the heart.  Beauty is multidimensional and easy to recognize with our eyes, yet true beauty is made visible by seeing with the eyes of the heart, the eyes of the soul.  As you move into the depth of it, it touches all of the senses until it expands and includes all of creation.

To take back and own our beauty, we must first begin to recognize all of its aspects.  To  see beauty in all of its forms, we need to adjust our focus and our perspective.  Is the flower really more beautiful than the compost of things that sacrificed themselves to give the flower life?

The events of our lives, both positive and not so positive, are the very compost our of which spring the beautiful flowers.  Out of the dark beauty come the pearls of our deepest wisdom.  It is this recognition that turns tragedy into a transformational gift, which pierces the mystery of the heart and unlocks love and compassion.  Beauty is the key that opens the door of the heart.

Beauty shows itself in the perfection of life, in the timing and unfolding of all that is. It is the delicate balance and weaving that must occur as timed events, one thread at a time, one layer at a time in perfect order. The orchestration that cause one thing to cause another as all of perfection occurs, is beauty so deeply incredible.

Take the flower for example.  When a seed is planted, it can’t be forced to grow because its cells are timed and certain actions within the seed must occur before we can witness the beauty of its flower.  The seed itself might not look beautiful to the eye, but it contains the beauty of the flower in its blueprint.

At times, we are the seed as we appear to be in dormancy.  In those dormant times, all of our dreams, hopes and wishes feel as though they are at a standstill, but things are occurring that we can not see.  Beauty is stirring below the surface.  The seed that you are must grow roots, become a sprout, the seedling, the stem and the leaves before you can support the flowers of your dreams.  The plant can’t grow without the rich compost of our lives that is the foundation from which it springs.

When we can see beauty in everything, we can stop the search and enjoy the journey. It is the journey that is the response to what the soul desires to achieve in this lifetime.  Those times in my own life that were so difficult, so mysterious and so painful always turned out to be openings to a new level of beauty and understanding of the perfection of my soul’s plan.  I have often been able to witness or discover something important that I would have never seen had I not taken this particular, profound and mysterious path that has supported my spiritual growth.

As you move into higher realms your perception and understanding of beauty expands, because you are observing through the lens of another eye.  Beauty encompasses everything.  The visible, the invisible, the space in between, that is the magic! There are no limits to the echo that ripples through creation as it dances on the wave of mystery.  The human eye is limited in what it sees.  One must stretch beyond those limitations to witness the luminous wonders that sparkle as spirit.  Beauty is in the eye beyond.



(I painted the painting at the top to illustrate this idea of expanding beauty.)

The Body is a Temple

“In your heart you know you are beautiful and divine”

Did you know that beauty and health go hand in hand?  If we give our body what it needs to be healthy it will allow our true beauty to shine through.  It has nothing to do with age and more to do with how you treat your body.   I am sure you have heard the saying that your body is a temple.  I love to think of it that way because of what our bodies are capable is so miraculous and sacred.

If we treated our bodies like temples, like sacred, precious, magnificent vessels, that were capable of miracles I wonder what different choices we would make.  Just thinking about the amazing things our bodies do everyday and how our bodies can do to heal themselves brings me a sense of awe.  When I think about it that way, my body deserves the best nutrition, exercise, fresh air, water and to be treated like a temple.  It deserves it!

If we thought about our bodies as a temple would we still eat diet foods to look a certain way? Would we have intrusive cosmetic surgeries to change the way we look?  Would we subscribe to the no pain/no gain mentality of exercise? Would we stay up all night partying?  Would we continue yo-yo dieting? Would we let others take advantage of us? Would we feel ashamed of our body’s appearance?

If we thought of our bodies as a temple would we want to give our bodies the best of nutrients? Wouldn’t we make sure others never crossed our boundaries or did things to deliberately hurt us? Wouldn’t we find physical activities that we enjoyed and felt invigorating by instead of ones we dread.  Wouldn’t we  focus more on how your body felt than how it looked? We would be gentler to our bodies and proud of how amazing it is.  And as a result of doing those things we would end up looking and radiating more beauty.

Kimber has an awesome blog about honoring your body called Finding Fullness.  In one of her posts she shares this exercise for treating your body like a temple:

1. Recognize its beauty. See how extraordinary your body truly is.

2. Approach your body with respect and awe. “Oh Nobly Born,” (as the Buddha says), be gentle with and dignified toward your body. Offer your body loving rituals of cleansing.

3. Treat your body the way you would any other sacred space.Don’t throw mental, emotional, and psychological “garbage” on it. Be kind and responsible.

4. Honor it. Listen to what food, movement, rest, and attention it needs and meet those needs appropriately. Dress your body with attention to the comfort and beauty that allows its beauty to shine fully.

5. Protect it. Avoid people who don’t treat your body with the respect it deserves, and situations which endanger its well-being.

6. Pause and enjoy it. Experience and appreciate your own aliveness. Slow down and savor your life.

Imagine for a moment spending an entire week acting as if your body was a temple.  What would you do differently?

Rebirth of Beauty

I wrote this poem 8 days after my 20th birthday.  I was already in touch with the meaning of beauty and how we lose sight of it.



Out of the darkness

I was sentenced to for months

I first opened my eyes.

I was in a different world,

a small, breathless child,

here by the miracle of birth.

But I was already aware of the newness,

the smell of the air,

the taste of nothingness,

the blurred vision of movement.

The newness, where has it gone,

the vision, where,

the feel of things,

the beauty of light, dark,

the feel of rain on my face?

The wind in my hair?

These things haven’t gone

they have become a part of me.

So much a part of me they are forgotten.

Out of the long darkness

I was sentenced to for years

I again open my eyes,

I am in a different world now,

and again aware of the newness.

Where is the Wonder

“We need a renaissance of wonder.  We need to renew, in our hearts and in our souls, the deathless dream, the eternal poetry, the perennial sense that life is miracle and magic.”  E Merrill Root

I am a curious person and I am always wondering about all kinds of things.  I think having a sense of wonder opens and expands our minds.  Children are born with a sense of wonder and everything around them is mysterious and magical.  Babies love bright colors and moving objects and children can watch a worm for hours with a sense of wonder.  An adult may walk right past that same worm without even noticing.

One thing that get’s in the way of wonder is judgment.  We are taught to judge as a way of understanding how we fit in the larger scheme of things and from that prospective it is important, but when it becomes a habit of mind chatter that amounts to exclusion and narrow focus, it is not.

The dictionary defines wonder as the emotion aroused by something awe-inspiring, astounding, or marvelous: gazed with wonder at the northern lights. An emotion comparable to surprise that people feel when perceiving something rare or unexpected.  A feeling of surprise mingled with admiration, astonishment, or marvel caused by something beautiful, unexpected, unfamiliar, or inexplicable.

How would life change if we kept our sense of wonder?  Imagine walking out of the house each day with anticipation and excitement about what might unfold.  Imagine meeting a stranger who has a different opinion than you have and leaving your mind open with wonder to hear what he has to say.  Imagine see each person as an new opportunity to learn and expand who you are.  Imagine looking at a flower and seeing the depth of color, the beads of dew, your reflection in the beads of dew, the tiny bug crawling up the stem, the aura around it and the vibration of the color against the green grass or blue sky.  Imagine seeing all of the angles in a situation and pondering which might be best for your.  Imagine the possibilities!  This is childlike wonder.

I can’t go any farther without mentioning Wonderland.  Everyone loves the story of Alice In Wonderland because it is so magical and it evokes a sense of wonder in children and adults.  Wonderland is described as an imaginary place of delicate beauty or magical charm, an imaginary realm of marvels or wonders and a place that excites admiration and wonder. Because Lewis Carroll remained child-like as an adult it gave him entrée into the psyche of the child.  He never left behind his child-like wonder of the world.  He let his mind expand and didn’t censor himself and Wonderland emerged.

What would you do if you suddenly found yourself in Wonderland? In reality we do live in Wonderland.  It is still the same world we marveled at as children we just don’t see it in the same way. We live in the world that Lewis Carroll was inspired by.   Rainbows are still magical arches of color, roses are still visions of rare beauty and hummingbirds are still marvels of nature.

How would your life change if you started each day with excitement and anticipation? What would happen if you were truly open to everyone you met and what if you noticed the spectacular beauty all around you?  What if you didn’t judge who might be a good connection and who wouldn’t?  People are attracted to wonder and excitement!  It is magnetic!  I imagine if we approached life with a complete sense of wonder, dropped expectations and remained open there would be a massive explosion of excitement, anticipation and imagination.  This expansion of imagination would change the world!

To descend down a rabbit hole, to push through a mirror in a drawing-room, to enter that “other world” of the imagination is Alice’s destiny, as it might be said to be our collective destiny, if only we value it and cultivate it. I challenge you to put on your wonder glasses and look at the world through this lens for just one day. Find the rabbit hole in your psyche and drop down into it.   I think your world will change too.

Mantra for the day: I live in anticipation, wonder and gratitude.

Let’s  start a renaissance of wonder and a revolution of beauty!

Reprinted from Magnetic Business Women Blog